Valentine's Day and the
“Honey! I got dinner
reservations at Chez Swanky for Valentine's Day!” And so it
starts, the working and breastfeeding mother's worst
nightmare. Valentine's Day is supposed to be a special day
for couples, and many new dads are expecting a romantic
night out with their wives. You may not have had an intimate
evening out since the birth of your baby, and there's a lot
of pressure to make Valentine's Day a big event. However,
for the working and breastfeeding mom, such plans start her
thinking about the number of feedings she'll miss, the
number of times she'll have to pump while they're out, how
she'll keep expressed milk cold at the restaurant, and how
much she'll hate to miss one of her precious evenings home
with her baby.
I have a few suggestions for
how to make that first Valentine's Day with a new baby a
celebration of love for your whole family. After all, as one
new mom put it, “we can't think of anyone we love more than
our daughter, and each other for the joy she has brought to
us”. There are ways to celebrate your romance that don't
involve pumping, bottles, and more time with a sitter. Plan
a quiet family evening at home, with a candlelit dinner on
the good china after your baby has gone to bed. If your baby
is young enough to nap and nurse through dinner, take her
out with you. Picture nursing your baby as you gaze
adoringly at your partner over an elegant dinner. Be
creative in planning couple time, working it in around your
baby's bedtime or evening naps. Take a long lunch or use
sick time to meet your partner for a lunch date. Your baby
will already be in daycare and you won't have to change your
regular pumping schedule. You'll feel like an international
woman of mystery checking into a hotel at noon with your
Most of all, keep in mind
that your baby is only this young and dependant for a short
time. Celebrate your baby as the embodiment of your romance.
Don't forget to squeeze in enough couple time to keep the
flame alive, but you and your mate will survive scaling down
Valentine's Day for one year.
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not meant to diagnose or treat any medical disorders. If you are
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